
“It is when the lover “gives” the object of love, abandons it and renounces appropriation, that the beloved manifests himself as vis à vis. What is given … does not in fact disappear, but is, as it were, placed in secret, “en surcroît”, in imminence. When the object of love is made surplus to requirements, the beloved to whom it was a screen, insofar as it is also a subject, can appear”.
La séparation d’amour, Arléa, 1998, p. 46.